A comprehensive bibliography for work related to conversations about race, sexuality and interfaith engagement would extend for dozens of pages and include hundreds of volumes. This resource list is intended as a starting point for those who wish to do further reading and reflection.
Start Talking includes a chapter on establishing ground rules, including the process for creating your own guidelines. The entire book is about 280 pages and is available for free download (by chapter or complete) at http://www.uaa.alaska.edu/cafe/difficultdialogues/handbook.cfm
The Center for Teaching at Vanderbilt has a short guide called Difficult Dialogues. It includes guidelines and a variety of techniques for engaging in difficult material and for defusing or de-escalating tension when “hot moments” erupt. It is available at http://cft.vanderbilt.edu/guides-sub-pages/difficult-dialogues/
The Public Conversations Project (Publicconversations.org) has a resource titled Constructive Conversations about Challenging Times: A Guide to Community Dialogue (It is also available in Spanish)
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force’s Institute for Welcoming Resources (http://welcomingresources.org) has two resources with relevant material. Both are written primarily for religious congregations and may require some changes to the language. The first is called Building an Inclusive Church (http://welcomingresources.org/welcomingtoolkit.pdf). The second resource is directed to people who wish to be allies and supporters of gay and lesbian people and is titled All In God’s Family (http://welcomingresources.org/AllinGodsFamily.pdf).
JustPeace is a United Methodist center that prepares and assists leaders and faith communities to engage conflict constructively in ways that strive for justice, reconciliation and restoration of community. It offers services including mediation, training, and resources on conflict resolution. More information is available at http://justpeaceumc.org/.
Recently the Bishops of the United Methodist Church have spoken on issues of race. Their statements can be found at these links. They also suggest several resources on race and racism.
“A New Dawn in Beloved Community: Stories with the Power to Transform Us,” Linda Lee, ed., Abingdon Press, 2012
Pan-Methodist Statement on Racism from the 72nd Consultation of Methodist Bishops
“Understanding and Dismantling Racism: the Twenty-First Century Challenge to White America,” Joseph Barndt, Fortress Press, 2007
The Center for Inter-Religious and Communal Leadership Education at Andover-Newton Theological Seminary and Hebrew College offers extensive resources on interfaith conversation. Their website provides access to many of these materials at http://www.antshc-circle.org/
The mission of the Kaleidoscope Institute is to create inclusive and sustainable churches and communities and competent leadership for a diverse and changing world. They offer leadership training in many cities and their website contains resources in both English and Spanish, http://www.kscopeinstitute.org/
The Boston University Religion and Conflict Transformation Program prepares religious leaders to become a resource for peace in a multicultural, multifaith world. The program sponsors events and provides resources at: http://www.bu.edu/rct/
Spirit and Art of Conflict Transformation: Creating a Culture of JustPeace, by Tom Porter: This book gives practical guidelines and stories for engaging with conflictual issues in challenging situations.
Dr. Wesley J. Wildman, Professor of Philosophy, Theology and Ethics at Boston University School of Theology, discusses conflict and the brain at Drew University's Clergy Health Day on March 9, 2015. This is a shortened version of Dr. Wildman's presentation. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j2YYl9f3YgI